Against the Odds
My daughter has been in the custody of the state (Indiana) for about 4 weeks and my story is one that I have yet to see. My daughter and I have had some serious issues for about a year and a half. Forgive me if my spelling is a little off, I've been awake for most of the night worrying. I've raised my daughter (and two older kids) by myself for the last seven years.
I am on disability due to degenerative back disease, fibromyalgia, several autoimmune disorders and so on. Needless to say, it is painful. I take medication prescribed by my doctor, which means that I do no get high or silly. It's like any other medication - the side effects go away.
I had worked my way up to a financial controller position prior to becoming ill. I have been a good mother; there is no one that could love my children more.
My youngest has been acting up for about a year and a half. I found drugs on her about a month ago, which is when everything blew up. I called her father who had rarely been in her life, because she became physical with me.
He took her to his house. I begged, my mother to allow him to keep her until I could get insurance (which he was court ordered to pay) and counseling set up. It had reached the point of no control.
Well, he brought her back two days later, I was panicking trying to get everything done and it didn't happen fast enough. She snuck out of the house one night and I couldn't find her. I called her father again, big mistake, he called the police and they told him to call CPS. Well, he told them about my illness, etc., and then they showed up at my door.
Not understanding, I let them in. They took her that day and now she is being told that she will be living with her father since he's married, etc. This is a man I would call on her birthdays to remind him and he still wouldn't call.
I'm finding that they believe that I have a drug problem. I don't other than I hurt. I've taken my medicine as prescribed. It doesn't affect my judgment. Believe me, I am not an addict nor do I try to get high. It's the same as someone taking a heart pill.
Meanwhile, my daughter who has never been in trouble with the law is living in a state residential program. She cries to me every night wanting to come home. My heart is torn so badly.
My doctor is going to get the foundation for pain's lawyer involved.
I just want my daughter home, receiving family counseling. Have you heard of this happening before?
My lawyer is even treating me different since she heard from CPS. I'm looking forward to at least four more wonderful years with my daughter and I'm afraid that time will be stolen from me. I would give the medicine up in a heartbeat, if I would be able to get out of bed without it.
Do you have any advice? Anyone that talks to me can tell that I'm not "out of it" or anything like that.
Sincerely,
Jaded
Update
I am trying to get my fourteen-year-old daughter out of residential treatment care. There are daily fights and I fear for my daughters health and safety.
She was getting out of control and needed a wake up call but she's had more than that. I am an intractable pain patient and take prescriptions accurately. Nothing about this was brought up in the first hearing but I guess nothing else was found. When medication is taken daily, you don't get out of it or high.
Our case plan was suppose to be today at 8:30 p.m. They held it this morning and only my daughter was there. She was told that I was a drug addict and that what I was taking would kill me. She called crying and worrying. She said they were saying terrible things about me.
A drug addict takes drugs to get high and my daughter has never seen me high. I take them so I can get out of bed in the morning. Has anyone else had this issue? My case plan involves rehab. I could get off the meds but then wouldn't be able to take care of my daughter because I couldn't get out of bed. I have raised two children and this is my first involvement with CPS. My ex called them because I was trying to get help so I could get her into counseling.
Any answers would be greatly appreciated!
Labels: CPS, drugs, Indiana, medication
posted by Annette M. Hall @ 9/10/2006 01:23:00 AM
5 Comments:
I was also afflicted with arthritis, fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease and more. I'm going to offer you some advice, not related to your daughter's situation but to your own.
I spent over a year in bed, was barely able to walk and kept medicated to the point where at times I could barely function. You are lying to yourself about the drugs, they are not healthy and in fact are very dangerous.
Unless you can get off the pain medications (and I'm offer this advice on the assumption of what meds you are taking because you did not divulge that information), you will never get your life back.
I found that my aches and pains were entirely diet related. I began taking Seasilver and other suppliments then started following the, "Eat Right for your Blood Type" diet. There is a direct relationship between what you eat and how your body reacts to the food. I found that eating any wheat products will cause my fibromyalgia to flare up, ditto with corn products.
Once I was able to function a little better, I began walking daily.
Today, I still have the occasional bad day but I am no longer taking any pain medications. I am no longer confined to bed. I am living a full life and even able to go on the occasional hiking trip.
I know that when my body starts to hurt, it's because of my diet or not getting enough exercise. I make the proper adjustments and my body begins to heal itself.
It's up to you to take charge of your life and it certainly won't be easy. What you need to ask yourself is, "Are my children worth the effort?"
I wish you the best and have written much more on the subject on my other websites. Search on LocalHS.com for "Eat Right," for more details.
Best wishes to you and your family.
http://www.nccpr.org/index.html
http://www.fightcps.com/
http://liftingtheveil.org/series1.htm
http://familyrightsassociation.com/
You are correct but if "Jaded" wants to get her children back, she will need to have her wits about her. Taking any kind of medication, while you are involved in a fight for your children, is simply asking for trouble.
They will use anything they can drum up, against a parent, why give them any ammunition?
Florida
August 31, 2006
Rude Social Worker Accuses Homeschool Mom of Using Drugs
A single homeschool mom received an unexpected visit from a social worker who intimidated her way into the family’s apartment, then insisted on speaking to both mother and daughter regarding an anonymous tip. The tipster claimed that the single mother was using drugs and thereby endangering her child.
The social worker was harsh and discourteous. After frightening both the mother and her daughter, the social worker promised to come back.
On August 16, the family received their second visit from the social worker, but this time they were prepared. The mother called attorney Chris Klicka at the Home School Legal Defense Association and asked him for advice. He counseled her not to let the social worker into the home. He then asked to speak to the social worker.
The mother handed the phone to the social worker so Klicka could explain the family's rights. At this point the social worker got very upset, loud, and belligerent. Reluctantly, the social worker finally left.
Klicka then sent a letter on behalf of the family to the social worker explaining that the mother had some minor medical issues for which she used drugs her doctor prescribed. These were not mind-altering drugs. In addition, Klicka had the mother send to the social worker various letters of references from those who knew her and could vouch for her innocence. He also had the mother provide to the social worker her doctor’s contact information so that the social worker could verify that the mother was using drugs legally.
Klicka concluded the letter stating that the case should be closed, as more than enough evidence was provided to prove the family’s innocence.
The social worker has not contacted the family or attorney Chris Klicka since.
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