Abusing the Abused
I'm a mother who lost her children due to domestic abuse. I didn't know it was going to happen, but it was my fault anyways according to D.H.S.
They made me sign over my parental rights of my 2 children who were 2 and 5 at the time or they would take my 7 year old and any other children I would have in the future.
I'm a good mom. I never hurt my children and they also noted that in their report. They say I put them in harms way, there for I was accused of neglect, because my ex-husband beat me one day.
What confuses me is why am I good enough for my other child though? There is a lot of stuff that D.H.S. did wrong but I couldn't afford to hire anyone to help me.
They stole my children and I can't seem to move on. Neither can my son and I can only imagine what my two little children must think and feel.
I'm writing to tell my story, however I can't write it all cause there is too much to tell. I'd also like to talk to other families and maybe if it isn't to late find a way to get my family back.
Katy
Labels: DHS, domestic violence, foster care, neglect
posted by Annette M. Hall @ 9/21/2006 01:28:00 PM
5 Comments:
It breaks my heart to read of stories like yours. It takes a sick person(s) to further abuse a family who has suffered through the trauma of abuse.
I am certain you have already figured out that the reason they took your two youngest children is because there is a market for young children. We all know it's much harder to adopt out older children.
How long ago did this take place? Depending on the law in state where you reside, you might still be able to appeal the courts decision to terminate your parental rights. Cases are continually being re-opened and won across the country.
Have you contacted your representatives in Washington D.C.?
Did they charge you criminally with neglect or simply accuse you of it?
Don't give up on your children. There is a reason you can't get over it. You are your children's only hope.
Get on the phone and burn up the lines, until you find an attorney who will help you. They are out there, granted attorneys who will work pro bono are not always easy to find but they do exist. Being productive will help you keep your sanity too.
I'd be happy to post your contact information, so that others may contact you. I just need your permission.
I agree with Annette. Don't give up on your children I know it is easy to lose hope but don't. If you need help it is out there.
I am in a similar situation. CPS/DHS has tried to take my children and accuse me of "failure to protect," as if I knew my husband would suddenly turn on me that day!
They couldn't find so much as a traffic ticket on me! I have no crimal dealings or record. I am a Licenced Vocatonal nurse and I've worked damn hard to protect my children, all of there lives!
Although HE has been forced outdue to the fact that I was coerced into getting a restraining order. If it were not for a reasonable juvenile court judge, they would have succeeded in "stealing" my kids!
I refuse to label myslef a victim but that is what this system is making me feel like and what it does to innocent women everyday. This is not how it should be in a "free and just" society!
Request a hearing...(they are not the only ones that can, you and your family have rights!) Prepare a case for yourself, keep records of the treats and what is being said to you, research and educate yourself. Most importantly...NEVER give up!
Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
~now nurse
~future doctor
I'm just finally reading this and it's January 3, 2007. I hope to GOD you have your kids back by now. When i was reading your story I thought it was my sisternlaw posting this. Your life sounds the same as hers. I am fighting to help my sisternlaw and it's an never ending fight it seems. I'll pray for you and my heart cries for you.
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